This post isnt for me. Its for others (and one man in particular) who have a hard time letting go, and moving on. Sometimes we have to cut people out of our lives to make our lives what we want them to be. Their purpose in your life is over, and its time to walk away.
1) You can spend your life in one of two ways. You can always be the victim, or you can learn to be the survivor. The choice is yours, and yours alone. When you choose, you have to own that choice. As a child who has grown to be an adult you can not continue to blame your parents for all their failings. Your failings are now yours. What you do with them will matter, ultimately only to you.
If you plan to continue to take the victim route, dont be surprised when you lose friends, and sympathy from those around you. 10 years later, people are tired of the same excuses for the behavior, the hatred that fills your life, and that inability to be a normal functioning member of society.
Your parents aren't the ones out there applying for jobs, and not getting them. You are. You are your own person. Society has a realm of acceptability, things like gauging and multiple facial piercings are not currently in the realm.
2) Forgiveness is not really for the person who has hurt you (whether real or imagined) Its for YOU. When you forgive what has happened to you, you set yourself free. You are able to stop dwelling on it, thinking about it or letting it haunt you every day of your life.
I know where you learned to play this role, and I am sorry you had to grow up in an environment that taught you to behave this way. You come by it honestly, but its up to you to overcome the victim mentality you have learned from the greatest victim of all time, and be something more. Life is not constructed of what other people have "done to you" Its built from what you choose to do about it.
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